Spiritual Guidance: Online Temptation
Pornography is not a physical issue; it is a spiritual issue. An online accountability program like Covenant Eyes is an awesome tool and an important step in reducing/removing temptations, however we need to remember that everyone needs spiritual healing.
The 5 points below will help you lead students toward healing.
1. Help students walk by the spirit:
Lust & pornographic temptation are desires of the flesh; your ultimate goal is to help students walk by the Spirit.
Galatians 5:13-17a: "You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' 15 If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
16 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh."
Pray for your student. Pray with your student. Remind your student to pray by themselves. We don't heal by ourself; we heal through the power of the Holy Spirit. We should be using God's power, not just our own.
Maintain your mentoring relationship with your student(s). Communicate with them regularly, and don't let their issues "fall off the map" or get "swept under the rug." Lead them through the growing & healing process.
4. Relational Accountability.
As a mentor, you should be holding your students accountable. This doesn't mean guilting them into things; it means having open, loving communication with them about their struggles. Don't shame them. When they are hurting, hurt with them. When they succeed, celebrate with them. When they fail, be loving and speak truth. You are with them. Walk this journey together.
In addition, connect students with peers who can hold one another accountable as well. Covenant Groups are a great place for that.
5. Communication with Parents.
When mentoring a student, always strongly encourage them to tell their parent(s) about what they're going through. Other than the Holy Spirit, this may be the most essential part of their healing process. Remember that parents are the most important adults in their lives. In most cases, you should not go behind a student's back to tell parents about these issues. If you do, it may break trust and damage your mentoring relationship. (Exception: If your student is in danger, is suicidal, or is in any other kind of mandatory reporting situation, you must report the information to your coach immediately. Your coach will help you take the proper next steps.)